I’ve discovered who my husband really is as a parent. This feels very bad.

Key Points:

• A parent expresses frustration over her husband's judgmental attitude toward his brother's parenting and niece, noting that different children require different approaches and fearing conditional love for their own child if challenges arise.
• Dear Prudence advises that parenting challenges will likely even out over time, encouraging open discussion about future parenting philosophies and discouraging participation in negative judgments about others' parenting.
• Another reader struggles with her partner's long-term inability to maintain cleanliness in his apartment, despite efforts to communicate and help, and Prudence suggests limiting time spent there and reconsidering cohabitation due to the emotional toll.
• A bridesmaid dislikes the wedding dress chosen by her friend but is advised by Prudence that unless there are serious issues like allergies or religious conflicts, questioning the bride's choice is inappropriate and that negative talk behind the bride's back harms friendship.
• A parent concerned about a kindergarten class being taught by an uncredentialed long-term substitute wonders what is reasonable to request from the school principal regarding teacher qualifications and student education quality.